One of the most powerful tools in getting dressed, one that gives your outfit real personality, is juxtaposition. It’s the unexpected clash that makes people look twice, that turns something ordinary into something memorable. A bit masculine, a bit feminine. A little gritty, a little polished. It’s what gives a look a point of view.

But here’s the catch: it has to be intentional. Without thought, juxtaposition can slip into costume. The goal is never to look random or overly styled. It’s about balance and contrast, not chaos.

One of my favorite examples: my worn-in, baggy black Citizens of Humanity jeans paired with my oversized black Willy Chavarria tee. Both soft, slouchy, minimal. On paper, kind of shapeless. But then I add a slim, strappy sandal and a classic string of pearls. The pearls, sitting atop that tee, shouldn’t make sense, but they do. It’s those kind of pairings that I love. They surprise people in the right way.

Another favorite: a flowy, almost romantic skirt with a masculine bomber jacket and a heavy, chunky boot. Or a baggy camo pant—not the redneck kind, but a refined version like the Nili Lotan Shon camo—with a delicate blouse. There’s a push and pull there that feels fresh. It’s strong but soft, rugged but refined.

These combinations work because there’s contrast but also cohesion, whether through palette, proportion, or attitude. You’re not just throwing random pieces together. You’re telling a story through tension. And tension, when styled thoughtfully, is what makes an outfit sing.

So next time you’re getting dressed, try pairing the unexpected. Let one piece speak louder than the others. Clash a little. Surprise yourself. Just do it with purpose…and a little restraint.